Written by Merle Hebing
Hi! Hiring a gigolo? You don’t just do that casually, right? Are you ashamed of it? Is it even allowed? In this article, more about the stigma of hiring a gigolo. Because in 2025, this shouldn’t be strange, exciting, or weird anymore. Women are equal to men. And when men hire an escort, no one bats an eye. But the other way around? Are women not allowed to have an exciting evening…?!
An article you might not expect so quickly on my blog. Victor came across my email. A gigolo who wanted to tell me more about his world and also break the stigma. Because women too are allowed to have an exciting night and hire someone (or to put it bluntly: pay for a sexual experience).
Hiring a gigolo?
Victor asked if I wanted to dedicate an article to: ‘hiring a gigolo.’ And honestly… I was also curious how it all works. We exchanged numbers (no, not for a date unfortunately, haha) but to chat about what a gigolo exactly does and involves. We spent more than half an hour on the phone. And honestly… I would like to meet him!
We had a really nice conversation, as if I had known this man for years. I think that’s what makes him ‘special.’ You really feel at home with Victor. He talks easily, listens well, and you become completely ‘zen’ with him. This is something Victor often heard and that’s how he got into the profession.
Being a gigolo is more than just having sex. It’s about creating a connection between each other. Victor offers various services. Think of a date, BDSM experience, dinner dates, and much more. Everything is fully tailored to how you want it. He makes you feel at ease and never does anything you don’t want.
How does it work?
‘First, I’ll message you,’ Victor tells me. You don’t start directly with me. First, we break the ice through messaging. This way, you get the feeling that you already know each other a little. Here, we discuss your wishes, desires, and what you hope to find. After that, we meet in person. Victor makes you feel comfortable. ‘Maybe the tension needs to ease first, then we let everything settle, or maybe I can raise the tension a bit… The date is shaped right then and there.’
Victor has a BDSM background and knows a lot about it, but he also works as a psychotherapist and therefore knows better than anyone how to deal with a woman. Victor truly enjoys his work as a gigolo and wants to give women and/or couples an amazing experience. He does this alongside his work as a psychotherapist. His wife knows all about his work and supports him in it, which I find really beautiful to hear; these things can definitely go hand in hand.
For Everyone
‘Women, stand in your power and express what you want.’ ‘When you’re at the bakery, you tell them which bread you want, right?! So why not do this in the sexual realm? You wouldn’t stop going to the bakery just because you don’t dare to say what you want.’ Get it? ?! Victor has a point here, I think. Hiring a gigolo is not only for ‘pathetic, ugly, and older’ women. On the contrary, Victor actually meets very different women.
I hope this article helps to be a little less ‘judgmental’ about hiring a gigolo as a woman. Hiring a gigolo is more reliable than swiping around on Tinder and hoping the date somewhat resembles his profile picture and doesn’t have any weird plans.
I really enjoyed the nice and meaningful conversation with Victor, and I hope the stigma around hiring a gigolo as a woman is no longer seen as strange or odd. And especially for all my readers, Victor might have an exciting surprise in mind…….