I am Victor
Here you can start to get to know me a little
Hi, I am Victor
Hey there! I’m Victor, a true Brabanter through and through, and I’m around 50 years old. Normally built (you know, not too much, not too little, just right), and an animal lover in the broadest sense of the word. Dogs, cats, fish, hamsters – if it’s a bit beastly, I’m a fan!
I’m an emotional person with a sharp mind and a good amount of self-confidence. Yes, I can hold a strong discussion, but I also enjoy a calm cuddle on the couch. Respect and reliability are very important to me, and I always look for deeper connections in the people around me (that’s why I don’t do quick flings). I’m in for a good conversation or just having a good laugh about nonsense.
Want to hear my voice?
That’s possible, I totally understand, you want to hear my voice to get a better sense of who I am. Nothing feels as familiar as those warm sounds that wrap around you like a cozy blanket. So I recorded a short piece, especially for you!
Why I do this
My passion is forming real connections. Deep, sincere connections provide meaningful bonds, and for me, that’s a new chapter in the adventure of life every time. An adventure where first looks, flirting, curious conversations, the delightful game of seduction repeatedly come together in a magical way.
My ultimate reward is there when you bloom, when you rediscover your own power and shine with confidence. It has always been my mission to help others reach their full potential and I believe in the immense power of sexuality. And nothing is more fulfilling than helping you connect with the primal force of your own sexuality through a genuine connection.
If you fully embrace your own sexuality and feel at home in it, you radiate this. Then you are confident and strong, you know how to use your own power in daily life.
And this transformation is what I do it for. It is incredibly special to experience over and over again.
It also means that appearance does not interest me at all. Believe me, I’m truly the person who doesn’t care whether you look like a Greek goddess or a walking wool sweater. What energizes me is someone’s aura. The playful sparkle in your eyes, that mischievous smile, or the contagious spark that lights up your face.
Worldwise
Through Brabant, Los Angeles, and Rotterdam, I now live just above Amsterdam. My journey has been not only geographic but also professionally very colorful. Over the years I have worked as a sports instructor in active mountain sports, so if you love adventure, I’m your guy! Mountain sports? Check! Spontaneous dates? Check! I’m always up for something exciting and pushing boundaries (and I mean both physical and mental 😉).
Psychology
Regarding my work, I have conducted trainings worldwide (from Australia to America) in the field of mind-body and am also a professional psychotherapist. I combine my passion for adventure with my deep interest in psychology and the personal development of myself and others. This has taught me not only a lot about how body and mind work together but also about how we as humans can grow and become stronger – both physically and mentally. It is my mission to help others reach their full potential, and I do this with great pleasure and dedication.
Connecting
Besides my work as a psychotherapist and trainer, I have also gained years of experience as a bartender and management consultant. Behind the bar, I spent many evenings not only mixing drinks but also sharing stories, listening to people, and making real, genuine connections. As a management consultant, I helped companies optimize their performance and achieve their goals, with a keen eye for detail and a passion for improvement.
Those combined experiences have given me a unique set of skills. From my time as a bartender, I can easily connect and create a comfortable, relaxed atmosphere. My role as a management consultant taught me to think strategically and coach people and processes to success. And as a psychotherapist and mind-body trainer, I bring a deep, holistic approach to personal growth and development.
By combining all these facets of my career, I am able to help a very wide range of people and create experiences that are both enriching and unforgettable.
So if you are looking for someone who approaches life with adventure, inspiration, and depth, then I might be the right match.
Challenging, laughing, and good conversations
What you can expect from me: I am a huge fan of good conversations, whether about psychology, personal development, or life itself. When it comes to food, I love luxury and indulgence—a fancy dinner every now and then is always welcome! But I also greatly enjoy the simpler things in life, like a delicious shawarma sandwich. Luxury or not, for me it’s always about the experience and enjoying the moment. Although I mostly eat vegetarian, I can really enjoy a good piece of meat from time to time. And yes, I have quite a strong sex drive and fully support open communication. What else matters to me: a bit of humor and a healthy challenge! Whether it’s a sporting activity or a sharp debate, I’m always up for something that challenges us both.
So, if you like laughing, taking on challenges, and a good mix of deep talks and laughing at nonsense, then I’m probably your man. Let’s just chill together, whether it’s with a drink, a movie night, or an adventure!
The first time Victor and I met up (after having met at a bar) was at a cafe in Rotterdam. From the first impression that I had from him I knew I could trust him, it probably helped that we both have a background in mental health care. During our first meet up he took me through boundary setting which is something that of course I know in theory and teach to my own clients, yet in an intimate interaction I find difficult.
In a nutshell - I am a 26 year old trans masculine lesbian who has experience with people overstepping my boundaries including sexual abuse and rape. I don't let people touch me in a sexual way (and the times I have I panic) and I'm only just learning to be able to touch myself again. A year ago I started working with a mistress and on this journey he crossed my path.
From the interaction in the cafe I already started letting my guard down, genuinely feeling only the best intentions from him. From what I knew in theory,(...)
Humor and empathy
I take good care of myself, both physically and mentally, which makes me emotionally stable and reliable. I believe that a healthy balance between body and mind is important, so I try to exercise regularly and maintain mental balance. I am someone who can process emotions well and knows when to take a step back to stay true to myself. I am kind and caring, always willing to support others and open up when needed. Emotions are not obstacles for me, but opportunities to grow and connect.
When it comes to dating, I believe trust, humor, and empathy are essential. I am someone who loves open communication, and I believe a good date should be based on mutual respect and a bit of fun. Trust is the foundation of any relationship to me — I am honest, transparent, and looking for someone who feels safe being themselves. What I also value is humor. Life isn’t always serious, and I believe sharing a good laugh can bring us closer. Whether we laugh at a silly joke or watch a comedy together, a little humor makes everything more enjoyable.
Victor is an attentive, intelligent man with a great sense of humor. His calm presence, combined with his humor, gives you a true sense of safety. He instinctively senses your mood and knows how to create a pleasant atmosphere in his own unique way.
He respects his date, her boundaries, and her wishes. He makes it possible to explore new areas and learn to enjoy them.
Love,
Hilde
Unforgettable moments
I have a gift for seeing through the layers of everyday life and truly seeing people for who they are. It makes me happy when my presence helps someone feel valued and seen, as if they come home to themselves. That is why I use my passions and skills as a gigolo, not only to create fantastic moments but also to help women (re)discover their own worth and strength.
And yes, that includes the enjoyment of sexual (re)discoveries. I believe sexuality is a beautiful and powerful aspect of human life. Together we can explore and push boundaries, reach new heights, and discover unprecedented levels of pleasure.
Every encounter is an opportunity to go deeper and make sincere connections that enrich us both, and that is precisely why I don’t do quickies. Together we will listen, understand, and enjoy each other because the thrill and excitement of a first meeting are simply unbeatable. But it doesn’t stop there; I strongly believe in aftercare. This goes beyond the time we spend together – it also means I’m there for you to talk afterwards, to give you a safe and warm feeling, and to make sure you can look back with a satisfied heart and a smile.
With me by your side, you are guaranteed an amazing time, but also memories that will make you smile long after our paths have parted. You will be reminded of your own unique beauty and strength, and I will be your guide in a world of genuine interaction, adventure, and attention.
I truly look forward to meeting you and creating those unforgettable moments together. Let’s embark on this adventure together!
After a while of online contact, we arranged to meet, and oh, how nervous I was — completely out of my comfort zone. Yet, I immediately felt at home with him.
He noticed my nervousness and allowed me to settle first; he looked at me, sensed me, and responded accordingly. A bit of testing the waters, talking, being affectionate — because it’s so important… respect for each other and each other’s boundaries. He truly takes the time for that. You are allowed to be exactly as you are.
Victor gave me the trust to fully and safely surrender myself to him. And what a pleasure it is to receive in whatever it is that you desire. He notices every sigh, every movement; even when you no longer know yourself, he does. I never thought I would experience something so safe and loving. His years of experience provide exactly the right approach for you personally, and his deep understanding of people makes it even more personal, and therefore even more special. His(...)
Details
Appearance
| Age | Early 50s |
| Height | 1.81 |
| Weight | 74kg |
| Build | Average |
| Endowed | XL |
| Eyes | Brown |
| Hair | Brown |
| Skin tone | Fair |
| Smoking | No |
| Facial hair | Graying beard |
| Chest hair | A little |
| Sterilized | Yes |
| Shaved | Intimate |
Occupation
| Occupation | Entrepreneur |
| Education | University, PhD |
| 2 books published about psychology and health | |
| Languages | Dutch, English, German |
| Specialty | Making connections, deep conversations, empathy |
| Travel | Worldwide |
What I like
| Hobbies | Movies, fine dining, diving, reading |
| Drinks | Good wine, cocktails, mocktails |
| Interests | Psychology, Mindset, Empowerment, Camping |
| Orientation | Hetero |
| Bucket list | Safari through Kenya, learning to dance |
| Cuisine | Japanese, Thai, Italian |
| Excitements | Beautiful lingerie, black stockings, high heels (even if only for in bed) and a nice short skirt |
What is possible
Everything can be discussed, nothing is mandatory !!
Regarding possibilities, everything is open to discussion and I have very few no-go’s
| Kissing | yes |
| Connection and bonding | Yes please |
| Sex | Yes |
| Anal | Yes |
| Outdoors | Yes |
| Orgasm | Yes, but rest assured, I don’t climax easily |
| Swingers club | Yes |
| Threesome FFM | Yes |
| Threesome MMF | Yes |
| Gay | No |
What else is possible
| Cuddling | Yes, very important |
| Good conversation | Yes |
| Taking it slow | Yes |
| Aftercare | Yes, of course |
| Making you squirt | Yes |
| Oral sex | Yes |
| Swingers parties | Yes |
| BDSM parties | Yes |
| Deepthroat | Yes, super hot if you can take me completely. It’s not easy though |
| Bull with a cuckold couple | Yes, we make it fun for 3 |
| Sexy lingerie | Yes, I really enjoy stockings, short skirt, high heels, or a sexy uniform. |
| Being given oral | Yes, you can wake me up for that |
And if you want to explore more, there is also my BDSM profile
No Go
Everything can be discussed, nothing is mandatory !!
Only some things are not for me, no judgment, it’s just not my thing
| Illegal stuff | No |
| Permanent physical or emotional damage | No |
| Anything with poop | No |
| Ageplay like diapers and coloring pages | No |
| Penetration without a condom | No |
| Drugs | No, I don’t use them, but if you want to use something, I have no problem with that |
Experiences of others
What a wonderful evening it was again. That look you gave me — it made me warm instantly. It was new, and absolutely delicious. And the pleasure of having your beautiful, big, hard cock in my mouth right away… pure indulgence for me.
I’m far from a good masseuse, but I truly love doing it. There’s nothing better than watching you enjoy yourself under my hands — whether it’s sensual or just relaxing. It warms me from the inside.
And even though you give me complete freedom in those moments, there’s not a single second where I feel uncomfortable. On the contrary, it actually deepens my feeling of affection. That constant physical contact, being allowed to explore your whole body… it feels so good.
Right before coming to you yesterday, I watched a few videos about stroking a man off. I don’t consider myself very skilled at it — I’ve always focused more on oral. But I felt inspired to give that beautiful cock of yours a proper hand job too. It gave(...)
My experience with Victor was fantastic! After years of hesitating about whether or not I would take the plunge, I finally decided to take the step — but in the most controlled way possible. That’s how I eventually came to Victor.
I was incredibly nervous the first time, and it was so wonderful to feel that he noticed this and gave me the space and time to settle in. Then he took control, but in such a gentle way that all I wanted was more.
Our first session was intense and enriching for me. Finally, someone with whom this part of myself can exist and be explored further. Since then, we’ve played several more times, and each time he surprises me and opens up new areas to explore. I’m already looking forward to our next meeting!
The adventure
So, now you have a sparkling glimpse into my world full of exciting and mischievous dynamics. My motto? Laugh together, explore together, and above all, always keep talking. So, ready to discover how far we can go together?
Are you coming along on the journey?